This chapter begins with me trying to decide what I really wanted to do with my life. I thought about becoming a librarian, because I enjoy books. I ended up changing my major to social work, because I wanted to help people. Then I decided I wanted to be a counselor, which meant I would have to change schools.
I ended up moving to Texas and went to Bible college. I was really excited to go. I believed that is where God wanted me to be. I transferred to a Walmart store down there for work. I moved almost immediately after finishing the semester I was in.
The sad part was that I had to give away my dog. I couldn’t take her with me. She was with me through so much, it was hard to let her go.
I also missed my family and friends.
But I was excited to be where God wanted me to be.
It took me a while to find a church. But I did find one.
Not long after I moved there, I met the guy who is now my husband. He had just moved there from California.
We both started at the same school and moved into the same apartment complex, on opposite sides.
I was really into him. But I was tired of the chase. I prayed about it. I asked God to not let him ask me out if he wasn’t the one.
It took a little while, but he did indeed ask me out. We dated for a while. He is an amazing Christian man. We ended up going to the same church after a while. He was so respectful. He even accepted that I wasn’t going to let him kiss me until he asked me to marry him.
We both went on separate mission trips with the school. He went to Poland & I went to the Ukraine. We missed each other a lot, but we were also able to focus on the mission at hand.
I enjoyed some of the things we did, such as going to the ballet & riding an overnight train. I also learned a lot by observing and talking to the people we encountered. In my eagerness, at times I felt like I wasn’t doing a good job at conveying the message of Jesus. This was a feeling I had after Thailand as well. But overall they were both great learning experiences. I was not a failure, I just had a few learning moments.
A little while after we got back, he asked me to marry him. He took me to a park & got down on one knee. I said yes. 💍😍
We were engaged a little over a year. We got married. Our honeymoon was in San Antonio.
Everything was different this go round. Waiting until we were married to sleep together was really the best plan. It is God’s way. He has a reason for it being His way. He created a time for everything. There was less anxiety for me, less shame, less complications in the relationship. I was able to make a more clear headed decision about the relationship.
I graduated with my bachelor’s degree about a year later or so. Another accomplishment down.
I needed to get a master’s degree, so it was decision time again. We could have stayed, but we decided to go back to the college I started at & off to Oklahoma we went. To be close to family. In Texas, we had no family. We did have some really great friends there. But we weren’t near family for about 3 1/2 years. It was a nice change.
I transferred back to the Walmart store I was working at before. We went to the same church I was at before I left. Though to me it seemed different this time, I don’t know why.
My husband graduated with his bachelor’s degree about a year or two later & started a master’s online. I was so proud of him.
After 10 years at Walmart, I was able to get a job in the field of counseling, so I took the opportunity. I started working at an agency as a behavior rehabilitation specialist. I worked with people to improve their behaviors. I was excited for the opportunity.
I was there several months, when the agency closed. I then started at another agency quickly there after.
Later on, I graduated with my master’s degree 😁🎓 and went under supervision for my license. This agency was helpful with me making progress through my career. I had an amazing supervisor and worked with some amazing people.
My husband graduated with his master’s. We traveled to Orange Beach, AL so that he could walk for his degree. I enjoyed spending time on the beach with my husband and I was again so proud of him.
At some point after I graduated, we moved to another town in Oklahoma about 45 minutes west of where we were to be closer to the job my husband got. This allowed me to be more flexible with clients as well.
We found a great church in the small town we lived in. We met some great friends. It was really quiet, which I liked.
I became fully licensed after we moved. I really enjoyed my job, except all the driving.
About a year and a half after I became licensed, my husband started looking for a job that was a little closer to what he went to school for. He was having a difficult time finding jobs in Oklahoma. He was trying to be considerate, because he knew I liked my job.
I did like my job. There were times I felt like I wasn’t doing a very great job, but i suppose that goes with the territory of being really new at a job. At the same time, God was working in me to follow my husband wherever he needed to go to develop his career.
I believe God wanted me to start writing and soon I had my own blog. I really do enjoy writing and getting my thoughts in writing. I’m working on being more disciplined at carving out time for it.
I then brought up to my hubby that I was ok with moving wherever we needed to move. I think he was a little surprised, but it was decision time again. It was then that things really started falling into place about the coming changes.
After much prayer, it was decided we would move to Arizona near his dad.
It was hard to say goodbye to family and some really good friends we made. I still miss them.
It was a big move. We moved about one and a half months after the decision was made. God provided for all the moving.
We lived with his stepbrother and his family until we were on our feet enough to get our own place. We found a church we really liked after about a month.
We both found jobs. He found a job at a company that does drug trials working in data entry. I got a job at a Medicare insurance company doing data entry.
God answered a prayer with this job. I asked for a job that I would really enjoy and I didn’t want to job hop. He took care of both of those. I like my job better than any job I have ever had. I’ll admit I felt guilty leaving a job I studied long and hard to get. I felt like I was letting people down and event letting myself down. But at the same time I believe that I was going where God wanted us to be.
An added note, to get my counseling license in Arizona, it was going to take a couple more years of school and probably more supervision, due to the state having different requirements than Oklahoma. I also didn’t want to go back to school again. I felt it was time for a change.
Two months after we got to Arizona, we found our own place and moved in. We liked our little apartment.
Ten months after we moved in, our apartment was broken into while we were at work. They stole laptops, money, and our gaming system. We were so nervous after that for a while. My hubby was having a hard time sleeping and I was nervous coming home for a while. God had to keep reminding me that He was with me.
A week later we went back to Oklahoma for a visit, which was much needed rest, not only from work, but our anxiety about the break-in seemed to lift.
A couple of months later we moved to a new apartment complex.
And here we are living life right where God wants us to be. We’ve been married twelve and a half years and love being a team together. I have found the one who gets me and we give each other grace in this life. God has used him on so many occasions to show his love to me. I may not be the perfect wife, but I’m trying.
I don’t miss anything from my old life. God has brought me through 44 years and more to come.
I really love following God and the life He has provided for us. He has given me all the grace I could ever need. I have done things I’m not proud of. But He has forgiven me through Jesus, who died for me.
He also died for you and will give you all the grace you need when you come to Him. He loves you no matter what you have done. He’s not mad at you. He’s only a prayer away.
The Bible says:
If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved. As Scripture says, “Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame.”
Romans 10:9-11 NIV
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord , “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
Jeremiah 29:11-13 NIV